I can relate to feeling this way, and I want to share a lesson I learned during my healing journey:
Vulnerability is a superpower. It takes a lot of courage to show our vulnerable side, especially when we’re not used to it. But sometimes, when things don’t go as planned, we get very disappointed, and that disappointment can make us build emotional walls to protect ourselves. Eventually, we might reject vulnerability altogether.
The thing is, we shouldn’t be afraid of being vulnerable. Embracing vulnerability is essential. It doesn’t mean we should have no boundaries or share everything with everyone. We can still be discerning about what we choose to share. The key is not to hold back from being vulnerable for too long because if we do, we might end up suddenly unleashing all our emotions on someone, which can be overwhelming for both ourselves and the other person. Instead, it’s better to find a balance and gradually open up with the right people at the right time.
Being open and vulnerable has lots of good things that come with it. When we show our true selves, we can have deeper connections and trust with others. It makes a safe space for them to be themselves too, and that makes our relationships more meaningful.
It’s important to be careful too. Being vulnerable doesn’t mean we have to give up our own well-being or let others use us. We need to know our limits and tell others about them so that our relationships can be strong and balanced.
Being vulnerable might be hard sometimes. It takes courage, and it’s okay to feel scared or unsure. We can learn from past experiences when it was tough or didn’t go well, and that can help us be better at being vulnerable in the future.
Trusting ourselves and others is a big part of being vulnerable too. When we trust that we can handle our feelings, it’s easier to share them with others. And when we trust the people we’re close to, we can have real and honest connections.
the thing that gets me about about barbie is that barbie land wasn’t even purposefully a matriarchy, barbie land came about because of the way little girls were playing with their barbies, it wasn’t created by mattel it was created by the people using the toys, so the fact that the barbies ignored the ken’s and had girls night every night wasn’t because they had some bias against him, it was just an accurate depiction of how kids play with barbies. I had some ken dolls as a child and they were essential to the plot in the sense that of course my barbie has a boyfriend because that represented the world i saw around me, but also he didn’t have any purpose in my dream world because i was only interested in what the girls were doing because they represented me and how i wanted to be, I wanted girls night every night I wanted the girls to be president and austronauts and not because of some inherent feminist idea but because I was a girl and I wasn’t thinking about boys, ken was an accessory. this movie wasn’t made to change the world but it showed a different perspective than what we usually see which I thought was fun. Men don’t have to be the centre of all our stories and its not even because we hate them, sometimes we’re just not thinking about them
